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3/17/06

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fosteronfilm's mom called yesterday. His dad's in the hospital again. It's not good. He simply can't get enough oxygen into his system between his lung and heart problems, and there's nothing they can do for him. It sounds like they're just trying to make him as comfortable as they can, hooking him up to oxygen, and hoping that he rallies again.

Matthew thinks that we might be making a trip up to Illinois soon.

I'm filled with dread every time I hear the phone ring. I've never lost someone really close to me before, someone I love, a parent or dear friend. And my dad-in-law is all of those things to me. I started having a meltdown last night. I'm so not going to be of any use to Matthew. He's going to have to end up comforting me instead of the other way around.

I'm terrified.

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On March 17th, 2006 02:55 pm (UTC),

jaylake commented:

Good luck. If your father-in-law can't regain health, I hope he's at least peaceful and comfortable.

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On March 17th, 2006 02:57 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thanks, Jay.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:01 pm (UTC),

winters_edge commented:

Oh, Eugie, I am so sorry. I'll be thinking of you guys.

Love,

M

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On March 17th, 2006 03:04 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thanks, sweetie. I appreciate it.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:03 pm (UTC),

jackzodiac commented:

I sort of understand what you are going through... right now everytime I hear the phone ring, I think it is amy calling to tell me her dad died...

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On March 17th, 2006 03:08 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

It's awful. I'm perpetually on the verge of tears, and my heart lurches every time the phone rings. I hate telemarketers.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:04 pm (UTC),

queenoftheskies commented:

::HUGS::

I'm so sorry. It's so hard to lose someone you're close to.

If he can't recover, I hope, at least, that he doesn't suffer.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:10 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you, sweetie. *hugs* His quality of life has been going down for a while, but there are still good days, and he keeps rallying. I want so badly for him to pull of this.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:21 pm (UTC),

whirl_twirl commented:

::hugs::

I can't imagine what it's like to possibly lose a parent. I was in freak-out-anxiety mode when my mom had her heart surgery, but that was knowing she was in otherwise excellent health.

Sending you and Matthew and his dad good thoughts for healing and comfort.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:35 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you, sweetie. I greatly appreciate your continued support

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On March 17th, 2006 03:23 pm (UTC),

aimeempayne commented:

So sorry to hear about your father-in-law's health. I hope he rallies.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:37 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thanks, Aimee. Me too.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:24 pm (UTC),

merebrillante commented:

I'm sorry.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:37 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:38 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thanks, Aliette.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:37 pm (UTC),

elvesforeyes commented:

My thoughts are with you and your husband.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:39 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:37 pm (UTC),

keesa_renee commented:

Oh, Eugie! :hugs: I'll be praying for him, and for you! :hugs again: I'm so sorry.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:39 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

*hugs* Thanks, sweetie.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:42 pm (UTC),

nmsunbear commented:

That's awful. I'm sorry.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:39 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you.

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On March 17th, 2006 03:43 pm (UTC),

ellyssian commented:

Good thoughts heading his way - being breathing impaired myself, I sympathize with him and hope for the best.

Good thoughts to you as well - having just gone through a fatal illness with my own father not two months ago, I can reiterate the "hope for the best" for you as well and add that, at the same time, plan for the worst. As my dad said, "Hey, I might even live through this!"

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On March 18th, 2006 03:46 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you. And many, many sympathies for your loss. I don't know how people get through times like these. .

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On March 17th, 2006 03:58 pm (UTC),

squirrel_monkey commented:

I'm sorry, Eugie. We're going through a similar thing, so I sympathize. Drop me an e-mail if you feel like venting.

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On March 17th, 2006 05:06 pm (UTC),

markdeniz replied:

I wasn't aware of bad news from your end monkey... hope all is okay and I'm sending some vibes your way.

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On March 17th, 2006 04:11 pm (UTC),

mrissa commented:

We are at a spot right now where the phone ringing could mean a new niece/nephew, or it could mean a death in the family. Or, y'know, it could mean someone trying to sell us siding. The uncertainty is a bit tense.

I hope things go as well as possible for your family.

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On March 18th, 2006 03:49 pm (UTC),

eugie replied:

Thank you. The telephone, I suppose, is a necessity, but I'm pretty much left viewing it as either a nuisance or a source of apprehension.

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